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Henry and Life

Henry Lamer and Old Age



hello everyone! Just tot i will blog a bit today.. haha.. anyway, my mum(yes, my mum) juz forwarded me an email... i tot it's quite interesting and meaningful. It's in chinese, so sorry to all my frenz out there who dun understand chinese. Feel free to ask me for translation.. haha..


看父母就是看自己的未來



如果你在一個平凡的家庭長大
如果你的父母還健在
不管你有沒有和他們同住

如果有一天，你發現媽媽的廚房不再像以前那麼乾淨
如果有一天，你發現家中的碗筷好像沒洗乾淨
如果有一天，你發現母親的鍋子不再雪亮
如果有一天，你發現父親的花草樹木已漸荒廢
如果有一天，你發現家中的地板衣櫃經常沾滿灰塵
如果有一天，你發現
母親煮的菜太鹹太難吃
如果有一天，你發現父母經常忘記關瓦斯

如果有一天，你發現老父老母的一些習慣不再是習慣時，就像他們不再想要天天洗澡時
如果有一天，你發現父母不再愛吃青脆的蔬果
如果有一天，你發現父母愛吃煮得爛爛的菜
如果有一天，你發現父母喜歡吃稀飯
如果有一天，你發現他們過馬路行動反應都慢了
如果有一天，你發現在吃飯時間他們老是咳個不停

千萬別誤以為他們感冒或著涼，(
那是吞嚥神經老化的現象)

如果有一天，你發覺他們不再愛出門 …

如果有這麼一天
我要告訴你，你要警覺父母真的已經老了
器官已經退化到需要別人照料了
如果你不能照料，請你替他們找人照料
並請你請你千萬千萬要常常探望
不要讓他們覺得被遺棄了

每個人都會老
父母比我們先老
我們要用角色互換的心情去照料他
才會有耐心、才不會有怨言
當父母不能料理自己的時候，為人子女要警覺，
他們可能會大小便失禁、可能會很多事都做不好，

如果房間有異味，可能他們自己也聞不到，
請不要嫌他髒或嫌他臭，為人子女的只能幫他清理，
並請維持他們的『自尊心』。

當他們不再愛洗澡時，
請抽空定期幫他們洗身體，
因為縱使他們自己洗也可能洗不乾淨。

當我們在享受食物的時候，
請替他們準備一份大小適當、容易咀嚼的一小碗，
因為他們不愛吃可能是牙齒咬不動了。

從我們出生開始，
餵奶換尿布、生病的不眠不休照料、
教我們生活基本能力、供給讀書、吃喝玩樂和補習，
關心和行動永遠都不停歇。

如果有一天，
他們真的動不了了，
角色互換不也是應該的嗎？

為人子女者要切記，
看父母就是看自己的未來，
孝順要及時。

如果有一天，
你像他們一樣老時，你希望怎麼過？
現在的你，
是在當單身寄生蟲、還是已婚雙料或多料寄生蟲？
你留意過自己的父母嗎？

樹欲靜而風不止、子欲養而親不在

您的父母還有多少時間等您?


meaningful heh? You know how i always tell others how afraid i am of old age? I guess the fear have more to do with people around me, mainly my parents. I simply cannot stand the idea of my parents growing older and weaker, not being able to do the things they can do now, not being able to care for me when i am sick, not being able to help me when i am in need... *shakes head*

Realise how interesting life turns out? U start out being relying on your parents, for food, shelter, pocket money, love etc. And up till a certain point of time, all this will become topsy turvy? Your parents will rely on you for food, shelter, pocket money, love etc. Isn't that ironic? haha..


I wish the new world will come quicker, then perhaps i will not have such worries anymore..



Ever realise how people around you sometimes just cant't stop complaining about their parents? Even if they dun, they will still be irritated by the actions of those who brought them up? I would be a big liar if i say i nvr had such ill thoughts. Coz i do. For example, how sometimes you just wan to chill, by playing com, surfing the net, then suddenly, out of the blue:


"Henry! 过来帮我收衣服！"


or...


"Henry! 为什么锅子还没有洗?!"


It will be inevitable that i feel irritated right? I'm sure you guys understand, or even better, i'm sure some of you experience some thing similar as well. But hopefully, all of you, like me, will not hold that grudge for too long. Coz other than extreme cases, your parents, as clique as it sounds, are really doing things for your own good. ya.. I still remember once, my mum did something that really pissed me off big time. Even though there were no huge verbal outburst from me, i did something else. Coz at that time, my dad wanted me to write daily reports in chinese so as to practice my chinese. So for that particular day, i wrote something quite hurtful to spite my mum, though i can't rmb what exactly i wrote, but what left a really deep impression on me was after my mum and dad read it, what my dad said afterwards:


"你最好反省反省你写的东西，你妈妈感到很难过。"


I was quite guilty afterwards, and never had i ever done this kinda thing ever again. maybe i grew more mature, or maybe my parents nvr irritated me sufficiently.. haha.. i dunno..


So you sort of realise that, the worst people to hurt in the world are probably your parents. Pls dun ever do that, at least try la hor.. haha... dun regret the things u have done.. =) And,



"Henry, 快点去睡觉！"



I'll miss that... =)

Lunch with hwee min

just a random entry to make u very hungry!!!















































































































hungry already? haha.. hmmm.. quite proud of my food pics.. hehe..


haiz. you should have eaten more.. u nvr eat enough.. seriously..

Henry Lamer and The Unfathomable

bet u are surprise to see me blog again so soon.. well, blame it on my free time.. haha.. anyway, i found out a few things about myself today. So i tot i should share with you all, especially those from the "I am very sure i know Henry very well" club.


First of which, i only realise today that i am actually quite a competitive person. Other than the fact that i like competitive sports, i'm also quite competitive in other ways. For example, if i think i am good in a particular area, i will feel a severe pang of insult which i may or may not raise up, if someone attempts to challenge my area of expertise. Or if someone feels that someone else is better than me. But the good thing about me is that usually, i will try and improve. ya.. but still, nothing wrong with a bit of jealousy rite?

Secondly, i am a pathetic communicator with the opposite gender. Those of you whom are thinking what rubbish is this when i have so many female frenz, too bad, but u are wrong. I realise i just dun have the tactic or ability to talk to girls. I'm juz plain boring and unimaginative. haiz...


*shakes head and sighs*





I cannot fail again this time..



i cannot afford to infuriate you again...



But i did it...




all of the above...




again..


Henry Lamer and the Bad Boys


hi everyone.. as usual.. its been sometime since i last blog. I was just asking princess ytd, how come she can blog everyday. Then she say coz her life is happening.. haha.. so i guess this just mean that my life is not happening. haha..

Anyway, just to update a little bout recent happenings before delving into my main story today. I went to pulau ubin a couple of days back. With a couple of my frenz from NS and some superiors. Sry no pictures here coz too lazy to upload. And i didn't take many pictures coz my phone ran out of battery. =( But u can go my facebook acc and watch a video. haha..

All in all, it was a fun and healthy trip coz i can exercise and enjoy myself at the same time. And most importantly, first time i felt so safe while outdoors. Coz, there were 2 paramedics, one ex paramedic(my godsister), 5 medics and one ex medic. Meaning, if any of us were to be injured, we are literally in safe hands. haha.. cool heh? haha..

Then after the cycling trip, some of us went to watch x men. It was relatively ok. With lots of cool effects, and some cool mutant powers. haha.. my kind of movie..

Other than that day of fun, nothing much to report about. haha...


So on to my main story...


I was having a little chat with jeff today. And i realise that poverty clearly comes in many forms. Doesn't mean no money, no food, no place to live in or no clothes to wear is poverty. Even a country in singapore, there's poverty, but a different kind. We clearly have a lack of equality and fair treatment towards everyone. Funny that we are often encourage to treat every race with equality and harmony.

But has anyone tot of, how bout equality among people of different education level?


Jeff cited to me many cases of teachers in his school, showing clear signs of biasedness towards the so call "smarter" students. For example, providing opportunites of overseas trip to students from the express or normal academic stream, installing air conditioners in their classroom etc. But where as for students belonging to the normal technical stream, no such luxury is offered. And know whats the worst thing he told me?

Once, the school announces to them. I forgot which subject but.. It was something like this:

Teacher: Dear student, as this year is a very important year for our express and normal academic students since they are taking their o levels this year, we'll be temporaily transferring your full time math teachers to them so as to provide more assistance. Dun worry, you are not neglected. Lessons will still be conducted by relief teachers.


!!!!??!!!!!


Can u believe it? What kind of bullshit is this?



And also, he mentioned, the way our society perceives people of lower education is also something of concern.


Is it really true that students with bad results, not attending mainstream schools, going to ITE etc, are always bad students?


Is it really true that students with gd grades, from prestigious schools are always good students?


And this is the same for the working world as well. What on earth is wrong with cleaning toilets, clearing rubbish or working in a construction site? Are those not jobs as well? Doe anyone realise that without them, the most basic of your welfare system is gone? Are those really such degrading jobs?


I'll be a filthy hypocrite if i say i nvr had those thoughts, regarding the education thing and the job thing. But after knowing more people, exposing myself to different types of people. I do realise that i have been a idiot in the past. Everyone is born the same, its the environment that changes you, and the society is part of that environment.


It's time to change people's mindset, and stop looking down on others.


You are not that good either.






It is impossible.. I'm not your type.




I know...

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